Note to Self: Have Fun First!

Updated: May 3

I’ve been going on about this all wrong!

I’m being too serious. I’m putting pressure on myself to get things done according to a timeline that is not my own. I should know by now that it doesn’t work like that, for me or anyone else for that matter.

All I know is I’d better change my mind about that, right now, if I want to have a joyful and fulfilling life.

Look again at the words I used in the first paragraph:

I’m too serious.

I’m putting pressure on myself.


What it all boils down to is I’m not having any fun, and that’s the thing I can change immediately.
What makes me happy? What helps me to feel good?
Writing, Music and Movement! Whenever I do any of those things, I feel good. And when I do them with other people I feel even better.

I used to be social, I enjoyed going out and having fun with friends, listening to music, singing, and dancing. All that changed when I got married. I immediately put on my good wifey/mommy-hat, just like I remember my mom doing, and began to immediately reorder my and my husband’s activities around making our home safe and secure for each other. Unfortunately, I omitted the thing that brought us together in the first place, music, art, people, and having a good time being together.

Brent and Donna Conover enjoying an "Evening in Paris"


And guess what happened? We’re both Bored Beyond Belief! The pandemic isolation didn’t help, in fact it gave us permission to dive even deeper into boredom, into relying on our addictions to make us feel anything but bored for even a short amount of time.


I’m very fortunate, though, it’s not affecting me quite as hard as it is my husband. It’s because I have a rich inner life, that I have been cultivating since I was a kid. I love to read. I love to take what I’ve learned from my reading and translate it to what I and anyone else who cares to listen can use on a daily basis to improve our current circumstances.


I have my early morning routine:

· Up at 4 am,

· Reading of self-development for 30-minutes to an hour depending on how immersed I get,

· Writing in my journals – usually two or three going at once,

· And then a nice brisk chi-walk around the neighborhood.


All this goes on uninterrupted until 7:30 when my husband and dog wake up. That’s when I put my wife/mom hat back on. But wait! I’ve been forgetting to take it off!


Starting today, it’s hat’s off to me, because I am going to get out there and start having fun again. I’m going to make myself happy.


  • I’m going to do MORE of the things I enjoy. That’s why I decided to start writing again. I remember how much I used to enjoy it, and right now, I feel happy writing, and knowing that very soon someone will read this and maybe realize it’s ok to feel happy just for the sake of being happy too.

  • I’m going to learn more about helping our big spirits live comfortably and happily in our extraordinary bodies.

  • I’m going to share what I’ve learned about our mental and spiritual selves through this blog and making our bodies a comfortable happy place for our big spirits.

  • I’m going to challenge myself to go over a little further and a little faster every day, so I can really see and feel how amazing and resilient this body of mine truly is!

I’m going to now refer to myself as a “Spiritual Fitness Coach”, just because it feels right.

And I’m going to do all this in the presence of PEOPLE, other than my husband. And I’m going to bring that good feeling vibe back to home to share with him.

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